Well, this week, I threatened to stop watching permanently. I was STUNNED when Ben Flajnik sent home Kacie Boguskie, the one I picked from Episode 2 to "win it all". But, now in retrospect, I see the error of my thinking.
Kacie B's family lives in the Bible Belt, not too far from where I live, actually. Her family has morals and values that are based on the Bible. It's obvious that she does as well. I think that Ben doesn't have the same convictions (although whether or not he believes in God or Jesus is not apparent from the editing), and he couldn't deal with those convictions from her parents, and maybe potentially her.
He took the easy road out! Why keep her longer when he could have Courtney, the CARAZY floozie model from out West? After her dad said, "Marriage is a gamble, you've got a 50% chance of losing," I almost got sick in my mouth. Comparing marriage to gambling? Uh, good one there buddy. Marriage which is sanctified by God, and gambling which is condemned.. yes, they're equal.
After watching this episode, I really think Ben will end up picking Courtney and I think they'll be broken up before the last episode airs. Firstly, Ben seems to love her attention and he's already proven himself to be clueless with women. With Ashley, he was SO clueless she was obviously going to dump him!! Secondly, I think Ben is not really the nice guy he portrays. He skinny dipped, on TV, with her. Imagine the winner's reaction to that, if Courtney isn't picked?! Lastly, I think Ben seems to want fame and since Courtney is from America's Next Top Model, she can give him a status boost in the world.
Anyhow, all this got me thinking about my marriage to the Captain, and what would it have been like to have to fight it out with 25 other women. What if I was convinced he was "THE one" (like Kacie B.) only to have my family not give him approval and him to break my heart.
I think that's why this show often doesn't work out for those involved. Love isn't about picking the best personality, or easiest road, or hottest girl or guy. God intended for it to be a union between a man and woman HE makes for each other. Marriage is NOT easy. In fact, I know that a lot of long-term successful married couples have said there have been years in between that they've DESPISED their spouse! I think sometimes God wants to put together people
Wait! What? People end up hating their spouse and then it works out?! I thought most people just get divorced?! Well, I'm guilty on both of those so I can see both perspectives. I got married at 22 to a really nice man who took great care of me. I don't believe he was my intended spouse but I didn't yet have the knowledge that even if he wasn't, God still intended me to stay with him forever. We ended up divorced because I gave up on our relationship when it got hard. Period.
After getting saved (and divorced) I met the Captain. We fell in love, ohhh man was I in love. Then we got married 3 months later! How crazy is that? Pretty crazy, we didn't know a lot about each other yet, but we've made it work. We've had seriously trying times when I thought we were going to get divorced, my family (and I) hated him, and he hated me. But, you know what? With God, all things are possible. We are now coming up on 4 years of marriage, and we have both grown so much.
Do I think I would have "won" on his Bachelor show? Maybe, maybe not. Would he have won on my Bachelorette show? Maybe not. So, now we're back to the beginning. I don't watch TV or want my kid to watch TV because they get the idea that things aren't supposed to be difficult or challenging. Love is easy.. etc. etc. I would never want to be with anyone else though, now. On his bad days, he drives me hopelessly crazy, but on his good days, I wouldn't change it for anything. I hope he feels the same through my "good times and bad, sickness and in health" too. :)
No comments:
Post a Comment